Saudi men on student visa are continually allowed to abandon the children they father. I, like many, have wondered why this is possible.
I want to share my views and some of the responses that I receive in my quest for answers.
To whom does a woman go to when she had parented a child with a Saudi student and the father neglects all responsibility?
The first thing many do is call the embassy in Washington DC for answers only to find them acting in a perfunctory manner. Saudi Citizens Affairs has not yet returned any of the e-mails sent. The group “Saudis in USA” have offered a mix of insulting words and empty promises from its founding members when contacted. Personal experience has taught me that, when told about this issue, Saudi men and Saudi women react quite differently. The men, in the form of e-mails, tell you how badly they feel, and that they will help in this matter never to be heard from again. Saudi women tell you publicly, that since we weren’t married to the Saudi men we deserve whatever we get, and claim no one will help us.
Why are the children punished in the denial of a proper family medical history and financial support ? What is it going to take to get someone to take notice? Is there a number we must hit before action is taken?
These men think that they can return to Saudi Arabia with no one knowing about he child they have fathered, and with the Saudi Embassy protecting them, they get to do exactly that.
Who out there is listening? Who is helping get the word out while offering good advice?
To my pleasant surprise the most helpful of everyone I have ever contacted happen to be non Saudi Muslim women. Some of these women’s blogs include: Andrea with(Abandoned Children By Their Saudi Father) , Carol with (American Bedu) Tara with (FHWS) Laylah with(Blue Abaya) These women have been respectful and helpful every time I have had communication with them.
I ask you the readers: Do you know of anyone courageous enough to help? Please help me get in contact with someone who will listen. The amount of e-mails/calls already made to clearly the wrong people are becoming redundant in nature.
How right you are!!!… I guess most of us have received the exactly same responses and reactions from the Saudi Embassy, Saudi men and women. I have been searching and waiting answers that seems that i never gonna get, so i think what we’ll have to do is continuing exposing the names of this saudi guys, and preventing other women to get involve with this guys. Also I’ve been thinking on the possibility to open a blog in arabic just to post the letters and expose them, so in that way more Saudis will know about this guys, because i’m sure if the family of their future wife know about the abandoned kids they won’t allow this guys to marry any “pure saudi and innocent girl.”