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Saudi Embassy forces DNA testing?

Darth-Vader-Paternity-Test

Recently an article was posted that the Saudi embassy is going to force DNA testing to prove paternity on the men who have children while studying abroad. When the embassy was asked about the number of cases their answer was in the single digits. They claim to be in the process of doing the testing now.

First their numbers are way off the mark since I personally have been contacted so many women who have had the same problems with the embassy as everyone else on the blog. This problem has been going on for over 30 years unchecked how can they claim such a small number?

No one on the blog has gotten a response from the Saudi embassy, they still refuse to return phone calls or emails. How are they going to force DNA testing when they refuse to even acknowledge us. I feel as if this is a ploy from the embassy to make themselves look like they are taking charge of the “small” situation. When in fact no one can seem to get through to them.

This problem is not going to go away. We are not going to go away. You say you are going to do DNA testing by all means prove it!!  We want the DNA testing done.

Saudi Embassy choose-between the “examination” of children whose paternity Americans and finish their mission

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In response to “a week in an hour” shown in rotana khalejeah channel

Bismillah Rahman al rahim
In response to “a week in an hour” shown in rotana khalejeah channel

After we have seen and analyzed the video we want to tell you our point of view on the subject of the video and how these men approached this sensitive topic of “SAUDI CHILDREN LEFT BEHIND”, we took the video offensive cause these men are generalizing the behavior of other women in America, let me state not all American women are the same. We women do not generalize the Saudi men for what these guys did to us US women are there sons. We know that there are many good men in KSA and we are not trying to belittle all of Saudi Arabia men because we know there are good and bad in every country. We know the situation of SAUDI CHILDREN LEFT BEHIND happens all over the world but the father of children are from kingdom of Saudi Arabia , that is why we opened this blog to prevent other situations with Saudi men and foreign women, and to let the fathers know that their children do exist . We are not looking or wanting money we just want to let our children know that we will do anything for them to keep them content and for their fathers to recognize them. We do not put the pictures of our children to try to get sympathy but just to show the similarities of our children and their Saudi father. We are not trying to get pity from other people around the world but just to show people this is not a lie. We think that the video was posted on a week in an hour” shown in rotana khalejeah channel was more focused on the women and offending us than the children which is not what we are trying to get. “And those who believe and whose families follow them in Faith,- to them shall We join their families: Nor shall We deprive them (of the fruit) of aught of their works: (Yet) is each individual in pledge for his deeds.” (Surah Al Tur 52:21) .The blog is about our children and their fathers not us mothers. We women of “Saudi children left behind” are willing to do DNA anytime if it was possible for the fathers to come back and do DNA with their sons/daughters so we can prove to the readers and followers and the country of KSA that our stories are real and this is not to seek any revenge against the fathers of our children. Our only goal of this blog is to inform the families of their grandchildren in America, prevent these situations again and for women to know what they have done before getting involved in relations with the men of our children. Inshallah We are not trying offend these men of” “a week in an hour” shown in rotana khalejeah channel “
But to show our opinions of there statements on the video.
jazakallah khair
Fathers Responsibility of his Children in ISLAM

The father in essence is the role model of the child and has been given the pedestal of leadership in the home: ‘The man (father/husband) is the keeper and leader of his family’. (Mishkãt).
It’s very clear that by divinely mandated Islamic Law, man bears full responsibility for the care and upbringing his children. Those who willfully violate the Law will be held accountable, especially on the Day of Judgment.

Children are a trust given to the parents. Parents will be held accountable for this trust on the Day of Judgment. Parents are essentially responsible for the moral, ethical and the basic and essential religious teachings of their children.

If parents fulfill this responsibility, they will be free of the consequences on the Day of Judgment. The children will become better citizens and a pleasure to the eyes of their parents, first in this life, and in the Hereafter.

God, Exalted, most High says in the Qur’an:
“And the mothers should suckle their children for two whole years for him who desires s to make complete the time of suckling; and their maintenance and their clothing must be borne by their father according to usage. No soul should have imposed upon it a duty, but to the extent of its capacity; neither shall a mother be made to suffer on account of her child, nor a father on account of his child; and a similar duty (devolves) on the (father’s) heir, but if both desire weaning by mutual consent and counsel, there is no blame on them; and if you wish to engage a wet-nurse for your children, there is no blame on you, so long as you pay what you promised for according to usage; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, and know that Allah sees what you do. Chapter 2, verse 233. **

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

والصلاة والسلام على اشرف الأنبياء وخير المرسلين, نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين

لقد شاهدنا كغيرنا, تسجيل إحدى حلقات برنامج ” أسبوع في ساعة ” والذي عرض على قناة روتانا الخليجية, والذي تناول فيه ضيوف الحلقة موضوع موقع ” الأطفال السعوديين الذين هجرهم آبائهم “, وكيف قام الضيوف بشرح وجهة نظرهم بخصوص هذا الموضوع الحساس, لذا فإننا نرغب في توضيح وجهة نظرنا الخاصة.
لقد ساءنا وبشكل كبير ما وجدناه من اهانات متعمدة من قبل ضيوف الحلقة والذين قاموا بالتشكيك في أخلاق وشرف وتربية كل النساء اللائي نشرن معاناتهن في الموقع, وما زاد من الاهانة ما قام به الضيوف بتعميم هذا التشكيك ليصفوا به كل النساء في الولايات المتحدة الأمريكية.
متناسين أو متجاهلين انه لا يمكن تعميم فكرة ما على مجتمع كامل, فعلى الرغم مما نعانيه وأطفالنا بسبب التصرفات المشينة لبعض الرجال من المملكة العربية السعودية إلا أننا لم نذكر بتاتا أو نشير بشكل مباشر أو غير مباشر إلى تعميم تلك الصفات المشينة على كل المجتمع السعودي, لإيماننا بان كل مجتمع يحوي الجيد والسيئ.
وإننا إذ نعلم بخصوص انتشار هذه القضية والتي تم تناولها في البرنامج, لنؤكد وبشكل قاطع أن سبب وجود موقع ” الأطفال السعوديين الذين هجرهم آبائهم “, هو لمنع تكرر مثل تلك القصص المأساوية, ولكي نتأكد من أن الآباء السعوديين الذين هجروا نسائهم يعلمون بوجود أبناء لهم, لاسيما بعد تعمد معظم أولئك الآباء قطع جميع وسائل الاتصال مع نسائهم.
كما نؤكد على عدم وجود أي أطماع أو مطالبات مادية لدينا, إذ أننا كأمهات مستعدون للتضحية لأجل أبنائنا وكفايتهم من أي حاجة.
وما قمنا به من نشر صور لأطفالنا, لم يكن أبدا بهدف الحصول على العطف, أو الشفقة, ولكن لإظهار الشبه الواضح بين كل طفل وأبيه, وليس محاولة لكسب رأفة المتابعين والقراء, ولكن لإثبات أن ما ذكرناه من قصص هي حقيقة واقعه وليست محض خيال أو افتراء.
إن ما احتواه برنامج ” الأسبوع في ساعة ” من هجوم متعمد ضد الأمهات في موقع ” الأطفال السعوديين الذين هجرهم آبائهم “, لنعتبره اهانة لنا ولأطفالنا, ولا نرتضيه البتة.

قال تعالى في كتابه الحكيم (وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَاتَّبَعَتْهُمْ ذُرِّيَّتُهُم بِإِيمَانٍ أَلْحَقْنَا بِهِمْ ذُرِّيَّتَهُمْ وَمَا أَلَتْنَاهُم مِّنْ عَمَلِهِم مِّن شَيْءٍ كُلُّ امْرِئٍ بِمَا كَسَبَ رَهِينٌ). سورة الطور

على الرغم من أن الموقع يتحدث عن الأوضاع المأساوية لأطفال سعوديين, وعما اقترفه آبائهم بحقهم, فإننا نستغرب إقحام الأمهات وجعلهم النقطة الرئيسية للحوار في البرنامج من قبل الضيوف.
مشددين على أننا لا نمانع, القيام باختبار الحمض النووي في أي وقت, لإثبات نسب الأطفال لآبائهم, إذ يمكن لكل أب يريد التأكد من أن يحضر بنفسه للولايات المتحدة الأمريكية للخضوع لهذا الفحص مع أبنائهم / بناتهم, وهذا ينبع من ثقتنا فيما نذكره في الموقع, ولإثبات صحة وواقعية ما نزعم به ضد أولئك الآباء, خاصة أمام قرائنا ومتابعينا, وللملكة العربية السعودية.
لقد كان وما زال الهدف الحقيقي لظهور موقع ” الأبناء السعوديين الذين هجرهم آبائهم “, لكي تعلم الأسر السعودية بوجود أحفاد لهم في الولايات المتحدة الأمريكية, وتسليط الضوء على ما يعانيه أحفادهم من أوضاع بسبب تخلي آبائهم عنهم, وحرصنا على توضيح تلك القضية بشكل مفصل بما يساعد كل الفتيات والنساء على عدم تكرار ما حصل لنا من مأساة.
كما نشير إلى ما وجدناه من تجاهل واضح من جميع الأجهزة والمؤسسات الحكومية والمدنية التابعة للمملكة العربية السعودية, وعلى الرغم من تكرر مراسلاتنا ومناشداتنا لهم, إلا أن الردود (وان وجدت) كانت تخلوا من الجدية.
إننا وبهذا الرد نؤكد أننا لا نهدف إلى اهانة الأشخاص الذين ظهروا في حلقة برنامج ” الأسبوع في ساعة”, بل استخدام حقنا في الرد على ما جاء في الحلقة من حوار نرفضه.

قال الله تعالى في محكم تنزيله (وَالْوَالِدَاتُ يُرْضِعْنَ أَوْلادَهُنَّ حَوْلَيْنِ كَامِلَيْنِ لِمَنْ أَرَادَ أَن يُتِمَّ الرَّضَاعَةَ وَعَلَى الْمَوْلُودِ لَهُ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ لاَ تُكَلَّفُ نَفْسٌ إِلاَّ وُسْعَهَا لاَ تُضَارَّ وَالِدَةٌ بِوَلَدِهَا وَلاَ مَوْلُودٌ لَّهُ بِوَلَدِهِ وَعَلَى الْوَارِثِ مِثْلُ ذَلِكَ فَإِنْ أَرَادَا فِصَالاً عَن تَرَاضٍ مِّنْهُمَا وَتَشَاوُرٍ فَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا وَإِنْ أَرَدتُّمْ أَن تَسْتَرْضِعُواْ أَوْلادَكُمْ فَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ إِذَا سَلَّمْتُم مَّا آتَيْتُم بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَاتَّقُواْ اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُواْ أَنَّ اللَّهَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ بَصِيرٌ) البقرة.

والله من وراء القصد

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Searching for my dad Ma’an Nizar Al-kurdi – معن نزار الكردي

معن نزار الكردي – Ma’an Nizar Al-kurdi

اسمي عمر نزار الكردي وابلغ من العمر ٢٧ عاما، وابحث عن والدي السعودي المدعو معن نزار الكردي, واعتقد انه يعلم بوجود ابن له ولكني غير متأكد.
لدي معلومات بسيطه عن الشركة التي يملكها هو وافراد العائلة والتي تدعى شركة الكردي للتجارة.
لقد قمت بمحاولات للتواصل مع والدي من خلال عناوين الشركة بالاضافة الي السفارة السعودية ولكن لا احد يتعامل معي بشكل جدي، كما ان والدتي كانت قد حاولت الاتصال به عندما كنت طفلا صغيرا ولكنها لم تحصل على اي نتيجة ايضا.
هل يمكن لاي شخص ان يساعدني للتواصل مع والدي ارجوكم؟
لقد تعرف والدي على والدتي في عام ١٩٨١م عندما كان منتسبا لجامعة جولدن ويست ومقرها في هونتيجتن في كاليفورنيا. وعاشا سوية في شقة واحدة بمدينة ميدواي، وهو نفس المدينة التي تقابلا فيها وبدأت علاقتهما آنذاك.
بعدما انتهى والدي من دراسته في عام ١٩٨٣م، غادر عائدا الى المملكة العربية السعودية عندما كانت والدتي حاملا بي في الشهر الثالث.
ان كان اي شخص يملك اي معلومات تفيدني، ارجوا التواصل معي على البريد الالكتروني التالي:ocrysler99@gmail.com
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My name is Omar Nizar Al-Kurdi I am 27 years old and I am looked for my father Ma’an Nizar Al-kurdi I believe he is aware of my existence but am not sure. I know that the company’s from which he and his family own and operate are called ALKURDI TRADING CO AND ZAWYA. I have made attempts contact him through these sources including the Saudi Embassy but no body takes me seriously my mother all so made attempts when I was a child and same result. Can any body help me to contact my father please?

They met each other in 1981 while he was attending at Golden West College in Huntington Beach California. My mother and father lived in the same apartment in Midway City where they met and the relationship began. When my father finished his education in 1983 he left back to Saudi Arabia while my mother was three month pregnant with me.

If someone has some information please contact me to: ocrysler99@gmail.com

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Saudis weigh DNA tests to prove parenthood

Saudis weigh DNA tests to prove parenthood

Jumana Al Tamimi, Associate Editor of the Gulf News recently published an article on the children who have been abandoned by Saudi fathers. KSA is taking the first step in having those men be heald accountable for their actions. Please note that this will not do anything for the women who were not married to their Saudi at the time of  your child s birth, but at least they are making an attempt to set things right. Women who were married to a Saudi man please I implore you to not sign anything from the Saudi government without first seeking the advice of a lawyer in your country. Some of these men might try to take your child from you KNOW YOUR RIGHTS and always protect yourself and your child. The men who have abandon you and your child have already proven they can not be trusted. I advise every woman who has contact with the father to keep everything for proof and also it is a good idea to record your phone conversations. The day will come where KSA will catch up to the rest of the civilized world and it will not matter if you were married to these men or not so please document everything.  Here is the link to Jumana Al Tamimi article. I would also like to take the time to thank her for her interest in our cause.

 

 

http://gulfnews.com/news/gulf/saudi-arabia/saudis-weigh-dna-tests-to-prove-parenthood-1.1044478

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To the Family of Sultan Abdullah Asiri,الي عائلة سلطان عبدالله عسيري ،، /

الي عائلة سلطان عبدالله عسيري ،، / To the Family of Sultan Abdullah Asiri
 السلام عليكم
    الي عايله سلطان عبدالله عسيري ،،
    هدا الابن عار علي هذه العايله. في عام ٢٠٠٩ شهر ٥ كان سلطان يدرس في الجامعه وخلال هده الفتره رزقه الله بمولود وهدا سهل جدا اثباته عن طريق الطب المتقدم والتحاليل. وعندما ولد ابنه يوسف قال انه سوف يتكفل بمصاريفه وسجلاته …الخ. ولكن للاسف لم يوفي بوعده. لان يوسف سوف يكمل ٣ اعوام بعد شهر. في الواقع يوسف بشوش الوجه وطفل جميل ومليئ بالسعاده. سلطان هو من اختار هدا الاسم لابنه ليحمل اسم العايله. وللمعلوميه ان النيه في داخلي ليست طمع في سلطان للزواج به لان هدا سوف يكون ضار علي ابنه يوسف. وانا سالت وطلبت السجلات الصحيه لابني يوسف. وحاولت ان احصل علي هده المعلومات من سلطان ولكن لم استطع. وانا علي استعداد ان اتواصل معاكم في هدا الشآن. الرجاء الاتصال بي
    شكرا
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 Joseph – يوسف
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 سلطان & يوسف – Sultan & Joseph
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سلطان -Sultan
Comment from Sultan to Joseph – تعليق من سلطان الي يوسف
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 I was and still suffer from studying and homework..
I wish you a wonderful and enjoyable life, my life is very difficult, and still very difficult, all the decisions that I have made were so difficult, non was simple. But, I love you and I love your mother, and I wish you all a wonderful life.” 
Written by Sultan Abdullah Asiri
(English Translation)
To the Family of Sultan Abdullah Asiri who reside in Riyadh Saudi Arabia.
This letter is to inform you of the actions of your son Sultan Abdullah Asiri has and still continues to shame your family name.  In may 2009 while Sultan was studying at the University Of Findlay, he fathered a son. This can easily be proven with DNA.When Joseph was born he said he would always help financially and he would make available his medical records. To date he has done neither of those things.  Joseph will be 3 years old in May, he is a bright wonderful child that is so full of happiness. My beloved husband has chose to raise Joseph as his child and Joseph has taken his last name. Please know my intent is not to marry your son or have him be a father in any way that would be detrimental to the child. I do ask for any medical records that are relevant to my sons health be available. All attempts to get this information from Sultan have been exhausted. I am willing to communicate with you on this matter, Please contact me at https://saudichildrenleftbehind.wordpress.com/
Thank you.
If anyone can help get this letter to Sultan Asiri or his family it would be greatly appreciated as he continues to ignore the mother of his son, pretending that they do not exist.


UPDATE. 11/07/2012

I have learned so much in the past year, the ups and downs have been enough to try anyone’s patience but through all the hardships I have found the most amazing people. They have been my saving grace during this difficult time. The family we have created and the bonds we share will last a lifetime.

Our numbers seem to keep growing and yet the Saudi Govt. is yet to take any action in disciplining their own people when they study abroad. The young and old men in our website still continue to live their life as if they were proper Muslim men marring virgin wives. The word whore is often used to describe the women effected. Family’s of these men ( Sultan Asiri’s family as well) when they are informed about their sons behaviour have a reaction that baffles us in the west. Pretending the problem does not exist seems to be the way some Saudis deal with a problem that is staring them in the face.

The majority of the women and adult children are Muslim and are raising their children alone. My dilemma there is with my own son is the fact that my sons father uses Islam as his excuse for his neglect and total abandonment of his son. How as a mother can I raise my son Muslim when his own father says that is why he hates his son? Why would I raise my son to ever believe that actions like that are acceptable because he is a male muslim? How can he pray to Allah and beg him to know his father while his father is praying that he never has to hear the name Joseph Martin or Jenniffer ever again. My son deserves better than that.

A Note To Sultan Abdullah Asiri.
Sultan,
I try to think back to a time when you and I were inseparable, up all night just talking about anything and everything that would pop in our heads. Hanging out with Fahad, Falah, and Tareq laughing so hard we thought we would die. You were in love with me and I you.
When I became pregnant you insisted I kill our child if I wanted to keep you you then showed me how important I truly was by sleeping with every girl you met and telling them you never knew me and you have no children. In the beginning people believed your lies and tall tales……then they get a look at your son and they all immediately know that you were a stone cold liar. Your defence was so unoriginal and comical….”o ya I know her she is crazy she says every saudi is the dad” REALLY??? First off look in a mirror and you will see what Saudi is the daddy. Second you KNOW you were the only man I was intimate with!! I was madly in love with you. I remember a time you lost your scholarship and were broke and homeless, I was struggling to put food on the table for my children and I took you into my home paid your bills washed your clothes and fed you. How is the favour repaid? You get your scholarship back after 8 months of living off me and my family and you go out and spend 3,000 dollars on a big screen tv for your new party pad while I have to get on welfare just to feed and clothe our son. I begged you for 10 dollars for diaper s and you flew into a rage saying you whore you only got pregnant so you can have my money, I tell you what let me send you a bill of money spent on Joseph thus far and see if the thousands of dollars I spent and the 0$ you gave seem logical at all.
When I created the website I hadn’t heard from you in months, when you found out about the website you broke into my house and hacked my computer with a key-logger and stole Joseph birth record. I had often wondered why you stole Josephs birth record? A few weeks ago I got my answer when you sent me the e mail with a picture of Josephs birth record saying I am a liar because your name was not on the birth record and my husbands name was put on file as his father. Sultan you know why I didn’t want your name on his birth record.
Now I can explain to the readers as to why.
I didn’t want Sultans name on the official birth record first and foremost he threatened if I did he would kidnap Joseph and I would never see him again (RED FLAG) With all the international child custody horror stories out there I refuse to ever give him access to my son when he is threatening to take him if I put his name on file or tell anyone that he is the father. Then there is the issue that Sultan did not want anything to do with his son, why on earth would I put his name down….Sultan does not deserve the honour of being listed as a father he is clearly not father or husband material. When I was presented with the fact that my husband could adopt Joseph and be put on his birth record I jumped on it. My husband who wants to be a father and loves every second he spends with his little arab prince deserved to adopt Joseph and be legally considered his FATHER. The safety and well-being of my son is to important to have a mad man listed as his dad. The day is coming where Sultan will be forced to do a DNA test and no amount of scheming lying and hiding will help. I look forward to the day I can post the results.

Just by some small miracle you are secretly wondering about how Joseph is doing in past couple of years……
Sultan he is still so short….he is going to have a little man complex….sound familiar?
His favourite colour is green and he loves to watch Yo-Gabba_Gabba & Pocoyo.
He loves spaghetti and pizza and can eat as much as a grown man. Sleeping with his blue blanket and pillow I made him for Christmas is a funny event every night. You would be so proud of how smart he is he can count all the way to a thousand and knows how to count by two’s threes excreta. Scary smart!! He loves to sing and dance to every day often on the black coffee table you left in my house. The sensitivity to clothes you had as a boy he shares, nothing scratchy on him or he will just strip all his clothes off ..even in public 🙂
Joseph is the poster child for cuteness. I do feel bad that you will never know what a light he is in this dark world. You will never know what it feels like to feel the world crashing down on you and have those small hands wrap around you in a hug and seeing the eyes of an angel looking back at you while he smothers you in kisses making all the troubles melt away. You have no idea what you have lost, the feeling of happiness you always wanted are not wasted on Matt, who is teaching Joey to be a little man. We get to see the child you refuse to and you have nothing to show of your life. I hope you will contact me about Joseph. Open your heart to the one person in your entire life who will want to know about you. He is your son…..please don’t have hate in your soul for an innocent child who did nothing wrong but have us as his parents.

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My Apologies

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I would like to take the time to apologize to the readers for my absence and late reply to comments as of late. I have been dealing with some very serious health issues and I am working on getting healthy. Please feel free to e mail me at saudi_children_left_behind@hotmail.com and I will do everything possible to reply to you in a timely manner. Thank You for your patience and understanding during my absence.

                                                                              

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Searching for Answers

Saudi men on student visa are continually allowed to abandon the children they father. I, like many, have wondered why this is possible.
I want to share my views and some of the responses that I receive in my quest for answers.

To whom does a woman go to when she had parented a child with a Saudi student and the father neglects all responsibility?
The first thing many do is call the embassy in Washington DC for answers only to find them acting in a perfunctory manner. Saudi Citizens Affairs has not yet returned any of the e-mails sent. The group “Saudis in USA” have offered a mix of insulting words and empty promises from its founding members when contacted. Personal experience has taught me that, when told about this issue, Saudi men and Saudi women react quite differently. The men, in the form of e-mails, tell you how badly they feel, and that they will help in this matter never to be heard from again. Saudi women tell you publicly, that since we weren’t married to the Saudi men we deserve whatever we get, and claim no one will help us.

Why are the children punished in the denial of a proper family medical history and financial support ? What is it going to take to get someone to take notice? Is there a number we must hit before action is taken?
These men think that they can return to Saudi Arabia with no one knowing about he child they have fathered, and with the Saudi Embassy protecting them, they get to do exactly that.

Who out there is listening? Who is helping get the word out while offering good advice?
To my pleasant surprise the most helpful of everyone I have ever contacted happen to be non Saudi Muslim women. Some of these women’s blogs include: Andrea with(Abandoned Children By Their Saudi Father) , Carol with (American Bedu) Tara with (FHWS) Laylah with(Blue Abaya) These women have been respectful and helpful every time I have had communication with them.

I ask you the readers: Do you know of anyone courageous enough to help? Please help me get in contact with someone who will listen. The amount of e-mails/calls already made to clearly the wrong people are becoming redundant in nature.

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Can someone translate this for me please?

Can someone translate this?


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Interview with Anne 36 year old strong Mother.

Interview with Anne.
Here is a woman who has 14years experience under her belt. Kudos to you for making sure your son has support in dealing with his anger.

    Would you please state your age, race, and religion?

I am a 36 years old. I am white. I don’t really affiliate with any particular religion. I was raised Catholic but over the years have studied many different religions. I feel the most emotional attachment to Islam but over the years have kind of let it go.

    Where/ how did you meet your Saudi? How long did the relationship last?

I met my Saudi, whom I will call B, in a nightclub in Denver, CO. He was 24 and I was 22. We hit it off right away. Within a few weeks we were living together and within a couple of months we moved out of town together to attend the university in a different city. He fully supported me the whole time we were together. I never worked and he helped with my tuition. How long the relationship lasted is a harder question. We were together for four years before I became pregnant and geographically together for two years after our son was born. At that point he returned to Saudi Arabia. The plan was for him to find a job in Dammam, close to his family, and for us to live in Bahrain. (Which in retrospect I don’t even know if that’s possible)He didn’t feel that I would be happy in Saudi and would have a better chance of acclimating in Bahrain. That was 8 years ago and I have pretty recently come to accept the fact that won’t be happening. However, we still have a relationship in the very broadest terms. He calls two or three times a month and we exchange emails and text messages frequently.

    What was your Saudi’s reaction to your pregnancy?

Quite honestly neither of our reactions were great. It was something that neither of us were prepared for. For quite a while he seemed lost and very confused about what we should do. We did a lot of talking and planning but in the end he told me the decision about whether to have a baby or not was ultimately mine but I had to realize there would probably be a time when he wouldn’t be with us. Shortly after he insisted that we get married so that our son would be recognized as his legitimate child.

    Were your family members accepting of the relationship? How do they currently view the situation?

My family loved him as they would love a son, and he them. My sisters and grandparents were especially close to him. My youngest sister was 14 when we met so he was most definitely an older brother figure in her life; I think she is probably the most disappointed in him. Also his younger brother came to live with us for the summer when he was 14 so our families were fairly enmeshed. Now my family feels hurt and abandoned. I think we all trusted he would do the right thing.

    Describe your current situation (your life, your child’s life, and current situation

Our life now is pretty good. Honestly I put my life on hold for about 7 years waiting for our little family to be reunited. It has only been within the last year that I finally decided to stop waiting and start living. I have started making plans and setting goals for the future that do not involve him. This has been really hard for me to face. Our son( whom I will call J) is a bit of a different story. J was two when B left and they were thick as thieves. At first our son was very angry. He refused to speak to B on the phone for at least a year. J is so hurt and confused that it breaks my heart. I sought counseling for him last year because I know that he is angry and sad but he refuses to work through it. He absolutely will not talk about his Dad at all to anyone. The counselor tried to get him to talk about his dad and the feelings he has but he refused. He told the counselor, “I don’t talk about my Dad to anyone. Ever. “We went to counseling once a week for three or four months and J never said a word about him. Finally the counselor said that until J is willing to talk about it there is nothing that can be done, and for me to call back if that starts to happen. Once in a while he makes comments in passing about how he wishes his Dad could be here so that he would be able to see what kind of boy he is turning out to be. This kills me because J is so smart and funny and kind. I worry so much about how his life will be affected. I’m very afraid that the emotional scars will be great. We are both very fortunate that we have an amazing support system and a very loving and close family.

    Will the Father be involved in any way in raising your child?

His father calls once every couple of weeks and talks to J for a few minutes. They have a hard time communicating because J has a hard time with his Dad’s accent, which is funny to me because when he was two he was pretty much bilingual. He doesn’t even remember that now. They exchange emails and he sends money for J’s birthday and Christmas. Other than that it does not appear he will be involved in any other capacity.
How are you dealing with the lack of support? (Financial/emotional)
The lack of financial support irritates me. I know that his family has money, whether he actually does or not. There was one time that I needed a fairly large sum of money to help with some medical needs for our son. The first thing out of his mouth was, “If you feel like you are not able to take care of our child then you should send him to me so I can.” I was flabbergasted and extremely irate that this person who had basically disappeared from our lives would have the audacity to even suggest such a thing. He sent the money but other than that the only other time we receive anything from him is on J’s birthday and Christmas. Emotionally is a harder thing. I fear we were both, in some ways, fundamentally broken by this man. To this day I love him. I am angry and hurt that he didn’t keep his word on so many things. I am furious that he seems so willing to be so far removed from our wonderful, beautiful child regardless of the consequences to him. But, I refuse to allow our son to see any of this. I have never spoken a word against his Dad nor will I allow anybody in my family to. I feel the day will come when J will have the opportunity to confront his Dad and form his own opinions.

    What are your hopes for the future?

My biggest hope for the future is that a very strong Mom and a loving family will be enough to make up for J not having his Dad present in his life. I hope that one day they will be able to know each other. I hope that our son will someday get the answers to the questions about his Dad that he is too afraid to ask.

    What advice would you give to another woman in your current situation?

Be strong and make decisions that are best for you and your child.

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