Interview With Isabella
Would you please state your age, race & religion.
I am 23 years old, hispanic/latina and christian.
Where/how did you met your Saudi. How long did the relationship last?
I met my Saudi through a friend that introduce us both it was his roomate at their house, we were together for 7 months.
What was your Saudi’s reaction to the pregnancy?
He was scared and the only words that came out of him was ‘HOW COME”. After that he said you must have an abortion because he was not ready to be a father, this will be a cursed to his life and, he wont be able to live in peace because he will be thinking about it constantly so lets get rid of this.!
Were your family members accepting of the relationship? How do they currently view the situation?
My family knew and accept it because they though he was well educated nice and a gentleman. Now they know they were wrong and he lie to us and disrespect and make fun of our family, home and honor.
Describe your current situation.(your life, your child’s life, current situation with Saudi, etc.)
My life is amazing now, I think and i am sure that I am blessed even though I committed a sin by being with my saudi but, I had two amazing fraternal twins and they are perfect and healthy. They are my joy and pride, I was able to have them for 9 months and I think that’s very hard to do when you have twins. My current situation with my Saudi guys is very clear he wanted an abortion, and since I didn’t do it he fled and went back to Saudi Arabia and states to anyone that ask him this are not my children, and he wants to be left alone and in peace.
Will the father be involved in any way in raising your child?
No, he doesnt want to be part of anything. He doesnt care about the kids and he tried to pay me 15, 000 dollars for the kids if he was left alone.
How are you dealing with the lack of support? (financial, emotional)
When I was pregnant, it was very hard for me go throw it alone and knowing that the father of my kids, couldn’t realizes what a blessing he had. Financially thanks to many programs in my town I was able to get the help I need but, it was not enough, especially when I have twins.
What are your hopes for the future?
I hope to finish my degree and be able to provide my children with the best that I can,and show them the other side of the culture they belong to. Also being able to raise intelligent, educated, children that love God,show them many things I was not able to complete.
What advice would you give to another woman in your current situation?
I know it is hard and I know you are very confused right now and don’t know what to do, who to belive and, trust but your not alone and, your not the only one in this situation and there is always hope. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger!.
Is there anything that you would you like to say to your Saudi?
Yes, the only thing I will tell him is Fear Allah!.
I lived in Saudi for many years and was immersed in their society, very few western women have successful lives in Saudi, and being an only wife, they always look for another one younger when they hit their 30.s. Now in Saudi family their mothers want them to marry who they choose, and trust me the mothers rule supreme. If you have never been to Saudi and met their families then be assured they do not know about you or your children and the man will do anything to keep you secret.
Saudi men very very few can marry western women and successfully live with them in Saudi, a Saudi man does what ever his family tell him. I married one in my 20s , and after marriage he changed and I got away from him, thankfully no kids involved.
To be honest just be careful as they are a very deceptive race of people, be careful who you contact at the Embassey, and what you say. Sometimes, men will marry in their mid teens and go abroad to study, their wives may or may not want to go with them. My suggestion is to keep well away from them, and stay very safe.