I thought I would finally share my story as I am a single mom here in Cape Breton nova scotia where many other females have fallen for many Saudi men. It was over two years ago now that I started to date a what I thought was a very sweet man I was head over heels for him, he made me laugh, he made me feel special everything a girl wants right? Early on the controlling started but you just push it aside because you don’t think anything of it because you are soo in love with this man. He hated being told “No” and anytime we had a fight it was always my fault regardless if I started the fight or not. He had to have all my passwords for any accounts I had, he checked my cell phone but, when I asked him if I could see or check his accounts he told me no and that he had nothing to hide like I did. After dating for some time I became pregnant instantly he told me to get an abortion. I was twenty-four and turned twenty-five while pregnant so I did not think being pregnant at this age was a bad thing and I also thought he will NEVER leave me. Well things got worse with the controlling and manipulating. I barely had any friends or freedom. The whole time I was pregnant he went out to the bar and drank, and did whatever he wanted when he wanted. Me on the other hand I had to ask for permission and even then that was a fight. I had to text him all day all the time if even if i was with my family. If we were going anywhere such as to a store or walmart for example I had to text him when I left, on the way, when I got there and while I was there. If I did not answer him right away he would ask what I am doing. I stayed with him thinking things are going to get better when the baby comes. That we will be that perfect happy family. Even now when I look back he was not really involved with my pregnancy. He once told me I should not drink a lot of milk because it will make me fat while I was pregnant and that I should also be a certain weight after I have the baby. Also while pregnant I was not allowed to go anywhere with him such as to a movie, to the mall, grocery store because he was afraid someone may see him and find out I am pregnant and tell the Saudi bureau on him. He was always afraid of what people may say or what people will say or think because he got a Canadian girl pregnant. He told me if anyone asks me who the father of my child is he told me to lie about it which I told him I would not do. On one occasion we went to a movie where he asked me to walk in at a separate time in case someone sees us together. He told any friends he went to university with that I went to Toronto and that we aren’t together anymore. Anyway, now I do have a two year old son who I love with all my heart. He is the apple of my eye the reason I wake up every day. Matteo was born july 7th, 2011 my water broke and I did not have him until five days later. His father was there for the birth, although he fought with me almost every day at the hospital or made me cry which was a daily thing. He loved to make me feel bad, cry I think it made him feel better. Now we have our son and all I can think is wow now we have our perfect family we can be happy and have our life together. After two days or so in the hospital we finally got to go home to our new apartment where my water broke while we paid damage deposit. It was almost surreal. The first day we arrive home he approaches me in the washroom and tells me he has to tell me something. He continues to tell me that he cheated on me with a girl one night while he was out while I was
pregnant and that she has tried to find him and tell him because she thinks he is the father. Me I am absolutely in shock right now I have just arrived home from the hospital with a new baby. I then slap him across the face because I was just torn I have never had a man cheat on me or even tell me this to my face like we have a child together how can you do this to me. After crying the whole entire day and, not leaving him at the apartment alone that day because it was the first day getting released from the hospital with my new born child. I get into bed for the night then he says it was all a lie and I look at him thinking what? What are you talking about… so he then says I lied about this girl I wasn’t with her and I just want to go home? I then didn’t know what to say or what to do because I was like well now I can’t even trust you so I don’t even know if anything that comes out of your mouth is true. After sitting crying and begging him to stay and help with my our new born son, just moving and getting settled into a new apartment he goes to the travel agent and books a ticket to go home. Our son was a few weeks old when Hesham Arfah Aljadaani left Sydney, Nova Scotia and never returned. Since then I have lost all contact with him. I do have many pictures of him. I have his parents name Arfah and hamdi, they live in Jeddah, his grandparents names where Fatima, Abdal aziz, and slmi and hamdin. He has one other brother(mohammed) who is married and has two children who are female named tolen, and wateen. He also has twin sisters. I do remember some of their names Abar, Amani (also I don’t know about the spelling). Also one of his sisters is divorced and she owns a business where she does decorating for weddings in Saudi Arabia. Mohammed his brother has come to Canada twice that I know of now and has lived in Toronto with his wife and two children to attend school to improve their English. His wife already knows English because she studied it in Saudi Arabia. So in total he has 4 sisters two who are twins, and one brother. Hesham also signed my son’s birth certificate at the hospital, he threatened me so many times when he went home that he would come back and take my son from me. It was something he did almost every day and makes me cry because he knew it would scare me. His father was a teacher at the school he attended which is DAR ALTEBEH in 2006 he graduated from this school. I did get contact with his family about a month ago on an app on my phone and it was his mother and sister but then they wouldn’t answer the phone again. I have tried all his friends here that hung out with him all the time but none of them have contact with him anymore. I do know he had me blocked on Facebook and I have tried to find him it’s just hard to find someone not in this country. The only thing I want is closure, why leave your son behind I just don’t understand how you can go away, never come back and live your live without having that heavy heart. I could never live knowing I have a child out there growing and in this world without trying to see them and experience everything in their life. I guess that’s a man thing they can just walk away from their child without it ever bothering them.